tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post1142481346762262305..comments2024-03-17T22:40:41.947-07:00Comments on The Social Porcupine: Deleted Keturah Lambhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-9765447760137056142020-07-07T21:21:43.898-07:002020-07-07T21:21:43.898-07:00For sure, I'll agree there are times and place...For sure, I'll agree there are times and places. But for the most part ... I'm addressing those times that it's done way too much. Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-22155552670029418462020-07-06T21:24:01.867-07:002020-07-06T21:24:01.867-07:00I do think it can be really immature and silly. If...I do think it can be really immature and silly. If being done for the right reasons I get it though.<br />The dog one, wow! XD Skye Hofferthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02385765274513034927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-53003682915906984632020-06-24T06:40:02.146-07:002020-06-24T06:40:02.146-07:00It is so nice having a great group of Christian fr...It is so nice having a great group of Christian friends, for sure :) <br /><br />Well, most 30 year old men still see themselves as 15 year old boys ;) Also, sadly, one of the reasons some men are still single is simply because they haven't found a woman in their age bracket that is compatible and Godly. And they are often "too" set in their ways. There is a charm about a young girl that any boy or man is attracted to. Yes, some men are creepy, but sometimes age only highlights that whereas younger men can hide it better. But yes you're wise to be cautious. Many older men are creepy ;) I just had to stand up for the good ones for a moment ;D Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-62750088969201547792020-06-24T06:34:27.570-07:002020-06-24T06:34:27.570-07:00Small feeds make it easier to interact with everyo...Small feeds make it easier to interact with everyone. So I think that's great, for sure. Sometimes my blogger feed overwhelms me. Always so much to read ;) You're definitely not missing out by not having Facebook. I love is at a tool, but people can be troublesome on there. Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-66196386558008622272020-06-24T06:32:27.462-07:002020-06-24T06:32:27.462-07:00I'm sure people have deleted me for the same r...I'm sure people have deleted me for the same reason, I just don't pay attention. <br />And you're not that interesting!? Don't say that! Maybe you don't feel like shouting to the whole world about your very fascinating persona, or perhaps many are too blind, but there's no such thing as a person that's not interesting ;) <br />And yeah ... I'm one of those weird people that friend people just because they have an opposing viewpoint. I find it alluring in some odd way. We all have our weird hobbies ;) Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-45424779377500716812020-06-21T12:59:10.555-07:002020-06-21T12:59:10.555-07:00I don't have face book, but I try to keep my f...I don't have face book, but I try to keep my friends and feed to a manageable amount. I try to stay small when it comes to online stuff. I haven't been blocked or anything. But I understand what you are saying. I don't think I would block anyone unless it was best thing to do. <br /><br />astorydetective.blogspot.com Rakayle Hierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154816732176287290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-52000794246457939232020-06-19T07:08:21.155-07:002020-06-19T07:08:21.155-07:00I'm starting to do that! Although, I still acc...I'm starting to do that! Although, I still accept from people I've seen around or heard of because I want to know as many Christians as possible. <br /><br />So many didn't listen and kept blowing up my phone, haha. <br /><br />There's a difference for sure and I wouldn't simply block or delete someone over a different view. <br /><br />Haha, for me the real question is: what thirty year old in their right mind would be interested in a seventeen year old? Anyone who is over six years older than me approaching me online or off feels sketchy, and I don't want to have to wonder years down the road if the only reason they started talking to me was because they viewed me as young and impressionable. I'm not saying I wouldn't date or marry someone considerably older, but the circumstances would have to be much different and less creepy. :P Grace Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02211596758178097327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-18444376569801750952020-06-18T03:10:08.521-07:002020-06-18T03:10:08.521-07:00I think I've been deleted by people, but not b...I think I've been deleted by people, but not because of anything I did. I never post much, so they may have forgotten who I was, or had no reason to keep me in the circle of people who can see their stuff. I've removed people for that reason. If I don't really know them and never interact, I figure no one will be hurt. If I've had a decent conversation with them at some point, either in person or online, I won't unfriend then. I might stop following them if they post a lot of stuff I care nothing about, but not usually. <br />As for being blocked, I'm not that interesting. I think even my Twitter discussions of some years ago for me blocked. I often have the impression I agreed with people more than I do. I have stopped following people in Twitter because of opposing viewpoints, but not as a knee jerk reaction. I simply can't read everything people have to say. If I follow less people, there's more chance I'll talk to any of them.Brie Donninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02143675481045319013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-89177272859304954022020-06-17T20:51:25.165-07:002020-06-17T20:51:25.165-07:00And recently I just found out that a girl deleted ...And recently I just found out that a girl deleted me over some satire post I posted years ago and forgotten about, haha. I laughed, because we had never really been friends but she acted like she really hated my guts. I mean, I'm sad that she hated my guts rather than try to understand me. But I wasn't hurt by it all. Kinda crazy. <br /><br />But yes that story about your friend is super sad and all too common. Why are we, especially conservative Christians, so quick to hate and create lines where neither hatred nor lines was ever meant to be!? <br /><br />I love blogging best! Social media can be nasty, but it's a great tool in my life, too, so I put up with the nastiness for the sake of everything else. <br /><br />I feel I'm every Ennegram lol. I mean, I don't dodge conflict and embrace it before I'll suffocate through unresolved tension. But that's only because I really value friendships and don't want to see them break. Funny how some of us try to protect our friendships by fighting, and some of us by NOT fighting ;) Takes all of us to make the world go round ;D Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-61274690764819813342020-06-17T20:44:46.804-07:002020-06-17T20:44:46.804-07:00Wow, that's intense! I've had a few guys s...Wow, that's intense! I've had a few guys send me creepy messages. But definitely never so many as you. I just don't accept friend requests from people I don't know, unless there's a reason to do so (like writing or political related, where I know this person is actually going to add something to my FB life in some sort of "business" way.<br /><br />As for the creepy guys that did message me, I just replied with a simple nice message and then ignored them forever after. But that doesn't work for some girls. I guess, I've been lucky that I've been able to stick by my no-blocking policy. <br /><br />But yeah, it's different when you're blocking someone you don't know/ a creep, and when you're blocking someone that ought to have been a good friend. <br /><br />(Also, if I were you I'd totally dig a thirty year old ;p but to each her own ;) Keturah Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05041749245034077912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-56021553755940905322020-06-17T10:58:08.982-07:002020-06-17T10:58:08.982-07:00Yes to this! It drives me crazy when people start ...Yes to this! It drives me crazy when people start cutting people out of their lives. One time when talking to a friend I asked about another friend of hers. She told me: "I'm not friends with her, she's part of a bad group and isn't doing good things." Shocked, I replied , "Shouldn't you be the good example she needs?" There are times to step back, definitely, especially if someone is making you uncomfortable or being abusive. Also it's good for anyone who likes to do anything that the people around them to know their boundaries. But why is there so much focus on it? Why break people apart instead of being a true friend?<br /><br />Blogging is my only social media because making all of the friend choices is way too much pressure for me, lol. I also recently have been into Ennegram and I learned that I'm a 9, which means that I hate conflict and broken relationships. So, maybe I'm over reacting. Good post, anyway!Chloe the MovieCritichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02200752624092560917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2538625224020600073.post-50928131937170354772020-06-17T09:42:32.423-07:002020-06-17T09:42:32.423-07:00I'm not sure if I've been blocked or delet...I'm not sure if I've been blocked or deleted, either way, I don't care. People have their reasons and I can respect that and if I didn't even notice, it obviously wasn't a person I was close to lol.<br />I've blocked a lot of people, when I first joined facebook I was naive, I accepted all of the requests from people who my friends knew in real life, the problem was all of these friends were guys, so when they said "oh yeah, he's awesome, accept that" they didn't know I would wake up to over 200 messages a day from all of these guys. <br />I would open up messenger occasionally and I could see twenty guys typing. <br />At first, I copy and paste rejected them, and then deleted the ones that were creeping me out because they didn't back off, the oldest was 36, there was also a dad in there telling me about his son and trying to get me to go out with his son if he ever moves down where I live, just a bunch of stuff like that.<br />I made a lot of friends, a lot of the guys apologized and since then we are friends and have pretty good conversations every once and a while.<br /><br />The others kept asking me to reconsider or if they could have my number so they can call me and they wouldn't take "no" for an answer, I got tired of them constantly blowing up my phone so I deleted them. <br /><br />I recently deleted a thirty year old, I rejected him and said I would never been interested and he said he understood but he kept messaging me daily, he sent me Proverbs 31 and said "you fit this description" and stuff like that, I let it go, but then he visited my congregation and it was just a stark contrast and it made me realize how weird him messaging me and trying to be my friend was, so I deleted him because he doesn't need a seventeen year old girl for a friend, we're on good terms, we're in some groups together so we occasionally interact but I just needed that to be cut back because I felt creeped on slightly.<br /><br />I'm not sure how common this is, but even when I don't accept requests, I still constantly get message requests from guys asking if they can get to know me. So that's my reason for deleting people, I'm so tired of it now that if someone just messages me "hi" I delete them because I am uninterested. <br /><br />I've given one guy off of instagram a chance, he messaged me and I had heard so many good things about him, we talked for a few weeks, he came down where I live for an event and we hung out that week, but it didn't work out because I found out he wasn't who his reputation and his words led me to believe, and that has also left a bad taste in my mouth. :/ Grace Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02211596758178097327noreply@blogger.com