The Social Porcupine

Firsts are sweet. My memories are full of  firsts: My first baby doll.  My first sister.  My first time seeing my mom's parents. My first entertainment park.  My first best friend.  My first time leaving home.  My first time feeling like I was in love.  But firsts can also be hard: The first time your friend says they hate you.  Your first breakup.  When the world first seems dark and threatening and suffocating.  The first time you feel like you really hate someone. The first time you wish that you don't belong anywhere.  Firsts aren't always sweet. Sometimes they are miserable and you want to forget them forever by creating  new  firsts. I've come to see that most of us are trying to forget a  ruined first  by pursuing the thrills of  firsts Visiting a new country.  Meeting someone of another ethnicity.  Hiking three days in the wilderness.  Riding a bus...

This is loosely related to my post More Tha n Modest . This post was originally published at the blog A Pinch Of Classy , where I do monthly fashion posts.  I have come to a huge realization: most of the world is selfish. Past the way we act and speak, on to the way we dress. To each individual life and the world revolves 100% around “me” and the way they do things. And I am no exception to this. (Do you ever like to watch people and think, 'to them I am the stranger. To them something drastic is happening. Their life is all that matters – my problems would be petty to them.' It's a humbling thought.) I am going to try and keep this post clothing focused...but as in many areas, my thoughts are directly and indirectly weaved around so many others. Life never unravels in one place – but the whole garment of existence has a way of catching flame suddenly all at once. Not only is it hard to put out the fire – but the damage isn't just a litt...

If. What a tiny word. Yet it holds so much. It means so much. It is so much. Some mistake this tiny word as evil. Some live by it. But most do not understand it. If brings up the idea of possibility. It can cause change. It is the reason the saying "Curiosity Killed the cat" exists. But did curiosity kill the cat? Or was it the lack of wisdom in choosing what to question  and pursue that killed the cat? Why hate something you can't understand when you can easily question and search it out? That is what the word if allows us to do. Instead of fearing something or allowing something to stay the same, we can ask "What if I did this?" And the more you think on it the more you can decide whether or not it can be fixed or changed or replaced. If is the inspiration of more. Inventions. Imaginations. Revolutions. Peace. Change. Originality. These all start out with "If I did this what would happen?" If can change the...

Hey, everyone! I hope you are having a fantastic week. Modesty . It's one of those tricky (stupid, it often seems) things. To dress or not to dress? ( Or how much should I "over dress"? ) I've seen a lot of different opinions on this. Mostly it seems that the issue of modesty is over stressed. -Not saying "Modesty is in my heart, not how I dress" illogical stupidness.- I'm saying that dressing "holy", like Amish or "modest trash" isn't the solution either. Most of those sort of people forget to make allowance to the fact that we are girls and need to dress accordingly. Men and women both need to dress differently , not to make one more or less inferior to the other, but because they are both different. But how can one dress both modestly and femininely? Is it even  possible? Some would say not. (In my opinion) Modesty rules are s...