The Social Porcupine

People can be really difficult. Especially when you thought they loved you and they ignore you, hurt you, or betray you. Sometimes those you once thought you loved or could love do something outright hateful or worse.  And then you are left with the realization, " This person doesn't love me." "Did they ever love me?" Truth is spoken to us through others around us. We soon realize that this person is not a friend. In fact, some will tell us they are toxic. And soon enough we will recognize this truth when our tears finally meet up with our brains. And we are left with decisions. The world is full of advice of what to do with toxic people. Pinterest is jammed full of "inspirational self-love methods". All four of these were saved from my Pinterest board.  Before I go on, I want to take a moment to talk about Toxic People.  What exactly is a toxic person??? Toxic People:  When most people talk of toxic ...

I have written dozens of short stories. I have around ten novellas.  And I have written three novels, two of which I feel are ready to be published.  Yes, I know I'm probably not ready, but these last few months I finally feel like I'm ready to be published. I've always wanted to be published. But I've always known that I must write a ton, receive piles of rejections, and keep writing for a time first. And then suddenly these last few months things have felt different for some reason. So I looked around for a conference I thought might suit my writing. Through recommendations from Stephanie Morrill  I finally decided upon ACFW .  And then for months I prepare by writing, editing, researching, and WRITING. A huge highlight was meeting Frank Peretti, and hearing him speak. I laughed so much in his class.  My goal? To be published. I didn't have to sign a contract or anything, I just wanted affirmation that this is in my futu...

Found on Pinterest  Pinterest is a great place to find quotes. That's about all I do on there ;) There are always so many! Great ones and not so great ones. But the majority of what I find are like this one: they sound great but deep down... they  really aren't that great. Let me explain... To an extent, this is a great quote. It's not the best thing to gossip about people. I mean... the Bibe talks against it. And talking about the weather or the last party you went to is rather pointless. But is it true that ideas are the epitome of great minds?  Let's dig into this idea and see... The greatest person that ever lived was Yeshua (Jesus). His mind is the one we should imitate. His ways are the way we should walk. His words should reflect from our conversation. What was the mind of Yeshua like?  To do His father's will To sacrifice himself for us (people)   To love everyone To warn us of consequences (events)  Y...

After last week's post you would have thought I was the biggest Myers-Briggs fan ever. I'm here to tell you, "That is incorrect." Sometimes I am so frustrated with that stupid thing that I never want to hear about it ever again - like it could get sued or something and I'd be happy.  Well... I don't quite hate it that much... but... First. The thing is so overrated. "I finally know me! And you, too!" I'm sorry to break it... but what's so great about knowing yourself??? Seriously... we aren't called to know ourselves. And if we are being honest... most people into Myers-Briggs aren't in it to get to know another person better. It's just another fandom . Another way we can talk about me and get away with it - and others laugh along!!!! It's a great way to keep loving me and not the other person. By the way, we aren't even called to understand the other person before loving them. Just love . Know what else f...

I don't know if any of you have ever got caught up in the hype of Myers Briggs . It's this personality test with 16 different possible results. Basically it groups everyone into 16 types. MB can be very fun. I was first introduced to MB through my friend Meadow when I worked at Above Rubies . Thursday evenings after I was finished with work I would often go to a young adult Bible study with her. We had quite a drive, and so a lot of time to either have great conversations - or loads of awkward silence. Thankfully we normally had great conversations as we both enjoyed discussing interesting topics. At the time she was completely enthralled with MB, as it was helping her understand her INTJ boyfriend better. I was kinda not too enthused about doing a personality test (I don't like being put in a box) but took the test and tried to make myself well acquainted with the details so we could have our conversations. It was actually pretty neat to hear how MB was helpi...