The Social Porcupine

When I was happy the most hurtful thing someone told me was, “I want to like you, Keturah. But you’re always behind a facade of laughter and I can’t ever get to really know you.” When I was falling apart, the most hurtful thing someone told me was, “Keturah, stop dwelling on it. Just get over it.” Both times these things were said to me by people that I respected and loved as close friends. I didn’t think my laughter was a facade … humor is always how I’ve dealt with life. But because of that, I was unable to laugh for a long time. When I was consumed with grief, I was trying desperately not to drown. I wanted to get over it. But being told that, when I desperately needed a friend to let me talk and rant, did not help me get over it . Instead, I pulled deeper into my grief and had no release. (I want to take a moment to acknowledge the fact that I have a few VERY good friends that laugh at my weirdness and talk with me during my tears. They never condemn me for either, but...

The other day I was thinking about how it was sad that some people don't like to think or have opinions. As if having an opinion about something is bad. You see, I love to spend my days developing opinions about all sorts of things while I work. It's fun to think. And it's fun to stretch your thoughts in new directions. But on this particular day, I was pitying all of those that don't like having opinions. I really pity those who say things like, "I don't really have an opinion." And say it as if they really  don't have an opinion. Like I said, I was spending my time pitying them. Until I started thinking about how impossible it had to be to not have an opinion about something. "Surely, there's something that everyone has an opinion on?"  And then it dawned on me what that something was—kissing!  Everyone has an opinion about kissing. And if you tell me you don't, I'll be convinced that you are lying to m...

I really love Emojis. Especially the happy ones. To me words convey ideas and part of feelings while emoji's share feelings and part of ideas. For fun, I decided to research the subject of Emojis and what I found is so fascinating. First there is a difference between emoji and emoticon. Emoticon is the first of the two words to have been discovered. It is a portmanteau, meaning that two words were blended together to create one. Emotion + icon = emoticon. Emoticons are basically just punctuation arranged to create facial expressions. Here are some code ( punctuation marks ) for some of our favorites ;) Saved from here According to  this  article emoticons first appeared in newspapers in 1881. That's like A LONG TIME AGO, GUYS! Next time someone old tells you, " We didn't use smiley faces when I was young, " ask them, " Are you sure? " According to that same article emoticons weren't actually introduced to computers until about a h...

How can one use criticism to grow instead of break down and feel condemned? How can you master pride yet keep your self-worth, even if you are right? Impossible it seems. It's a very hard thing… It's easier if you are actually wrong – or at least the answer is easier to give. Haha. Just get over yourself. Accept the correction. Just change. But when you aren't wrong? (And when you are truly not in denial) I think most of us will find ourselves facing this one time or another. But not often – because normally, let's face it. We are wrong. We deserve the criticism. And even if there is wrong on the other side, there is usually just as much fault if not more on our side. But there will be those few times when this is not the case. And this can be very hurtful, and even discouraging if the people accusing are very close, yet not open to what's true. Still we need to remember a few things, so we don't join the wrong side. Because it's very eas...

The title says it all. No need to read any further. Haha, what sort of crazy blogger would I be of I actually said that, and meant it! ;) Please keep on! And leave your thoughts at the end :D Today I'm sharing a series of posts I did on Facebook a while back. It got a lot of attention ( Uhhm..negative ). 😝 😉 So, just thought you might all like to see it also! There are a few slang words that are accepted in our modern-day society as being good. I want to discuss two of the main ones  OMG ( Oh my gosh or God, Jesus, lord, etc )  and darn ( dang ). (And all other crude slang words). And I want to present them from three different perspectives that I have categoirized under my own titles ( not necessarily accurate titles :b ): Mainstream Christian, Conservative Christian and Secular. 1. Mainstream Christian: As Christians we try to live good lives. Most of us would agree that blasphemy is one of the worst sins we can commit against God. And normally we...